In October, we observed Domestic Violence Awareness Month. It was a time to remember those who have lost their life to abuse, a time to reach out to those who are currently living in abusive situations, and a time to educate the public on the signs and symptoms of abuse.
Unfortunately, there is often a forgotten victim. A person who sees, feels, experiences, and hurts each time the abuse occurs. That person is the child. Approximately 76 percent of children living in abusive homes are witness to the actions and words that occur under that roof.
As a community, it is important for us to support these victims just as much as we support their adult counterparts. As friends, church leader, classroom teachers, coaches, and mentors, we can support them as they live through these events. Children often lose their voice as their family goes through the process of removing itself from the abuse. Be the person that listens. Remind them you are always there if they need to talk. And, most importantly, remind these young victims, "This is not your fault."
These children love both of their parents. Keep in mind they may have vary conflicting feelings regarding the behaviors they have witnessed at home. If you are working directly with these secondary victims of abuse, keep them informed. Get down to their level and explain the situation in an age-appropriate, understandable way. Explain possible outcomes and never make promises, it's too difficult to say with certainty exactly what will happen.
Please consider the fact that we cannot protect the children if we do not protect the abused parent. If you know of someone who is being abused please put them in contact with one of WDVS' 24/7 Hotline Advocates 775-421-1028.
And remember, if the mother (or father) is scared during an abusive attack, how do the children feel?
WDVS is currently exploring options to expand services for these young secondary victims. If you are a part of an agency that would like to partner with WDVS in this effort, please contact our office directly, 775-625-1313.
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